bismillah...
half of this is specially for her... selebihnya untuk sesiapa yang berniat nak gi meminang anak dara orang. sorry saya dah jadi bini encik azhar. ;P
just got a call dari jauh... memang jauh... dari czech republic. not an offer to further study lah. degree pun tak habis lagi kan..
yang pernah cilok post dekat sini mesti tau siapa orang tu.. hehehe... oke2.. she's my best friend since primary school, aimuni abdullah.... sekarang kat sane, menghabiskan hari-hari terakhir sebelum jadi Dr. Aimuni. hoye2.. seronok oke...
kind of funny bila she started the conversation with the word stress, then tanya nak nangis boleh tak tapi tanya sambil gelak-gelak. haha. stress ke tak sebenarnya?? but then from the beginning pun dah boleh tau ape motif call dari jauh...teng!
saya bukan nujum mak belalang, bukan jugak tok moh kg padang landak, but since my mum has been a great reporter around my hometown, i knew about she's getting married. tapi tak tau bila.. then with that call dah berakhirlah penantian nak dengar dari tuan punya badan...
the main thing yang kami sembangkan was about wedding. her wedding asalnya.. but then maybe you know me, when i'm excited i can't tell who's the one who made the call.
ceritanya lah kan.. my bestie ni tengah tertekan sangat-sangat dengan bakal imam die ni... majlis lagi tiga bulan tapi boleh buat cool tak nak confirmkan bila nak pergi rumah kawan saya ni untuk bincang pasal kawen tu.. semua nak didecide last last minute.. this girl stress la sebab dah cakap banyak kali... mintak decide cepat cuz nak bajet makan and everything. ye lah, orang datang dari jauh takkan nak jamu biskut jagung cicah air teh panas kan... tapi that boy tetap jugak cool nak buat last minute. ingat ni assignment ke nak buat last minute? ni soal masa depan tau tak?? kita ni punya la fikir macam-macam hal. nak kawen sekali je kut, boleh tak serius sket..?? buat la mudah-mudah dengan family kita, nanti family kita reject awak kat ruang tamu rumah kita, padan muka awak!! hey, is this your story or my story?? haha.. our story is actually SAMA. rasa macam deja vu. benda yang saya dah lalu start tengah tahun lepas, sekarang bestfren saya pulak rasa.
mungkin penyakit kami berjangkit sebab kami suka share makanan masa sekolah rendah dulu, siap dengan suap menyuap lagi tau.. and now we share the same problem. the thing is, memang stress bila berurusan dengan lelaki masa dekat-dekat nak kawen. i don't know lah orang lain, tapi kami punye situasi (based on her story tadi) memang lebih kurang je.
orang lelaki ni memang suka berlagak cool2 eh?
*tiba-tiba rasa tak faham suami sendiri.*
meh la saya gitau kat semua lelaki yang tengah merancang nak kawen tapi pada masa yang sama nak maintain cool. tolong lah...
DENGAR CAKAP YOUR WIFE TO BE!
memang sangat important sebab dekat-dekat nak kawen tu, kami punya hormon memang banyak punya kacau lah. nak tukar status is not an easy thing for us. kalau korang tak call kami satu hari pun kami boleh berleter 4 minggu kan.. inikan pulak nak buat keputusan untuk terima someone jadi peneman solat, hidup, makan, tidur, jaga anak, jalan-jalan, so every small thing masa ni is no longer a small thing for us.
masa couple, kalau ada masalah, kami akan fikir, is that the right thing to do? patut tak korang buat macam tu bla bla bla..
tapi bila nak kawen, kalau ada masalah, the only thing yang kami akan fikir, are you the right person for me? and most of the time kami akan fikir the answer is no. blame the hormone.
so please..
bila your bakal bini ask you to call your mum, just do it immediately.
bila dia mintak satu nombor yang menggambarkan berapa ramai ahli keluarga anda yang akan datang, please quickly count in your head, and tell her that that is your answer for that time being. do it right after she asks because at the the end of the day you still have to COUNT and tell.
bila dia tanya something yang you pun xde jawapannya time tu, promise her you will tell her later and DON'T FORGET about it.
she will think of so many things. kalau pun you takde langsung niat nak kawen dua tiga or empat, please CARE about her request.
one more thing. lepas kawen nanti, your wife akan ditanya oleh ramai orang pasal baby. you answer all her questions now and she will take care of the one about baby after this. no promise, she will surely do that, together dengan segala pakej mengemas rumah, pregnant, bersalin and jaga anak, she will do all those things just for you.
saya macam membebel kat suami je.. hehe.. tu dulu.
oh maknanya munie sayam saya.. just go with the flow. if you feel like crying, just cry. they will never understand us. tp believe me, he will get his mind back right after akad. seriously.
pape pun, try to adapt.. and speak your mind... maybe.. i say maybe.. he has problems too.. if he does, the first prob must be his ego, and the others just ask him.. and you too, tell him ape yang you fikir sebab kita pun xmampu nak baca fikiran orang lain. baik tanya dari salah faham.
kalau tak silap, time before kawen dulu, bila dah fedup sangat tu saya selalu cakap kat beliau
"oh, org kna buat benda tu, tapi org tak buat. xnak buatlah, nak tengok boleh kawen ke tak" i forgot what the thing is, but beliau sangat gelabah and suddenly ask the thing that he need to do.
pasal nak dapatkan confirmation pasal hari merisik or bertunang what so ever, i explained to him..like..
"abang dengar ni. kalau kita nak kawen bulan 2, paling lambat bulan 6 ni dah kena jumpa family. persiapan akan take time, nak hantar kad pun kena sebulan awal, baju nak kena cari awal. untuk cari date tu, sampai bila pun akan bermasalah, tapi kalau setakat cakap je tiap-tiap hari tanpa buat apa-apa, last skali abang akan dapat kad jemputan orang kawen dengan orang lain je."
first part kena explain effect untuk segala option sebab lelaki tak pernah kisah pun yang harga tisu kat tesco adalah lebih murah dari giant pada masa-masa tertentu. kalau diminta beli tisu, dorang hanya akan BELI tisu. so takut dia tak nampak yang beli tisu and "beli" saya adalah dua perkara yang sangat berbeza.
dan yang second part tu tak lebih dari alarm yang ada sedikit unsur-unsur ugutan.. bagi dia bangun dari tido die tu.hehehe
then... if you're confident enough that he's the one for you, sabar and everything will be just fine after this. doa banyak-banyak mintak Allah mudahkan segala urusan kita, i'll pray for you too to keep having the same feeling as mine now hehehe.. i know what you feel.. don't worry, it's normal.
and lastly
selamat menuju ke alam kehidupan yang lebih "best" lepas kahwin nanti..
hehehe
*be prepared la..
love,
tick.
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